If this was four months ago on a Sunday evening, dinner would be looking much different. I would be planning a meal with all four food groups. Perhaps it would have been grilled chicken and vegetables. Fresh strawberries on the side. Or my husand may have decided to steam crablegs and we would be sharing a ceasar salad. I would have shopped for the ingredients and cooked dinner with the plan of sitting down at the kitchen table for the Sunday family meal. But that was four months ago. Four months ago I was still happily married to my husband. We were a family of four; myself, my husband, my five and half year old son and my four month old daughter.
But unexpectantly my life changed on a Saturday morning when husband took me outside, away from the ears of my son, explaining to me he was no longer happy in our marriage and wanted a separation. Within a week we were both in agreement our marriage was over. Now this blog will not dwell on the details of the final days of our marriage. If that is what you are looking for there are plenty of articles, books and how to manuals for your reading interest on surving one's divorce. This blog will not be one of them.
Today I am trying to get through my separation with my head held high. I get up everyone morning, take care of my children, and go to work. I work with therapist who is helping me sort out the overwhelming thoughts and feelings swimming through my head. I have close friends to confide in. I am spending more tme with family. I am slowly beginning to make a new routine. Repeatedly friends and family say I am doing great. But, I have to admit I am not always feeling great.
But I am managing to get through each day and adapting to my new life as a separated, single Mom. I am even looking forward to new opportunities for my family's future and feeling overall positive. However, the one area of my life I have been struggling with since is our separation is with food and meals.Before my separation I consciouslywas thinking about what I ate, making healthy choices for myself and my family. Planning meals, focusing on all food groups, avoiding fast food. I enjoyed weightlifting, running and yoga. But after separating from my husband I was finding my food choices were changing. I was know longer planning meals, but stood in the pantry pondering dinner nightly. I was frequenting McDonald's more often and my kid's chicken nuggets were looking appetizing. Also there is three of us with different eating needs. I wanted to keep dinner normal and routine as much as possible for my son, but find it was hard to find meals that we both enjoy.
Feeling at a lost for meal options I turned to the internet to see if others felt as I did and turned up with nothing. It was then I decided to start blogging about divorce and food. Over the time I would like accomplish the following with this blog.
- Explore how divorce or break ups change our eating habits.
- Share recipes with single parents (no divorce required).
- Share food shopping tips.
- Share meal time routines or traditions after divorce or separation.
- How comfort food places a role in the break up.
- The "divorce diet",
- Share healthy eating and wellness tips.
This is only a small part of what I picture this blog to become. Afterall food, meals, health and wellness emcompasses so much of our being and lives. If I don't pay attention to it I may find my relationship with food breaking up too.
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